A RAMBLING. You have been warned.
i’m quite sick with life of being a firstborn.
i don’t know whether all eldest siblings feel this way. i feel more burdened because i’m expected to be responsible for everything. especially housework.
recently, i have been easily ticked off when my mum asked me to bathe the dog or mop the floor or hang out the clothes to dry. i find that she is always picking on me. issit because i’m an easy target? that i’m the one most easy to bully? she never did ask my sister nor my cousin. it’s always the eldest who does the work. i find that horridly unfair.
the easiest excuse is, they are studying. what in the world?? oh, i’m not studying but working so i have to do issit? then what about two years ago when i was still studying? i WAS doing the housework too!
when i told my mum to delegate, she’d half-heartedly ask my sister to do, and she being the fierce one always snapped back and say that she’s busy. busy busy busy.. everyone’s busy wert! and then there’s my cousin who is staying with us because she’s studying in a nearby uni.. which my mum NEVER delegated ANYTHING to her, because she’s a guest. i scratch my head and say an ear-shattering “HUH?” life is good for her, ain’t it?
whenever i protest and rebelled, mum would give that mengada look and say, “ok, fine, i don’t need you to do.” that’s when i get really scared. and i hate myself for being scared at that. i hate it when my mum uses that tone.
i really dislike sundays at home. once i get back from church, that’s it. do this do that.. when the other two can sit and enjoy the tv or the internet. i have been very patient, and i think it’s wearing thin. i get easily annoyed more easily now. i have forgotten what is grace and mercy. i am starting to get destructive at home. this rage inside me makes me feel difficult to breathe; it’s uncomfortable and it’s scaring me. it forced my tears to well up and i had to fight back to refrain myself from flinging a coffee mug on the floor.
Colossians 3 spoke right at me. Paul said in the epistle: “we must rid myself of anger, rage, malice, slander, filthy language and lies from our lips. therefore as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. forgive as the Lord forgave you. and over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
is there something i overlooked? amanda once said that life is how we make it to be. if i choose to do everything cheerfully (which is rather impossible at this point in time) things wouldn’t be so bad right? can i really do chores happily, watching the other two lazing around while i slave away? doesn’t really solve the ‘justice’ issue, does it? as jon said before, life is unfair. can’t it be changed? can’t it be life HAS to be fair?
i’m so tired. i’ve swept and mopped the floor, folded the clothes, and hung out the clothes and last night, cleared out a messy cupboard.. holding on to colossians 3 for dear life before i smash something else, i will go and drown bathe the dog now.
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